Sex Toys for Penis Pleasure
Written for GFH by Luna Matatas
We see many sex toys marketed towards women and people with vulvas, but not as many for penises. In reality, most toys can be used on any body since penises and testicles can get pleasure from vibrators and other sensations.
Popular sex toys specifically for penises include penis strokers and cock rings, but there are lots of other options! Here are few types of sex toys that are popular for penis pleasure:
Cock Rings
Cock rings are great for temporarily maintaining or strengthening erections by keeping the blood in the penis. They can also vary, from simple rings to vibrating rings to rings made of different materials like leather. A stretchy one is ideal to begin with as you can put it on and take it off whether the penis is soft or hard. Ones that are adjustable only work well if you put them on before the erection happens, otherwise it can be hard to make a tight fit. Metal rings are only advised for those who are very experienced with using rings. They can only go on before an erection, and if the penis cannot ejaculate or otherwise go flaccid while wearing one, then a trip to the ER is the next step to have it sawed off.
Penis Sleeves
Penis masturbation sleeves are sex toys that are typically made of softer materials and can be housed within a container to simulate a warm, soft, and textured environment. They are sometimes known as ‘‘cock sleeves” or “strokers” and they can be used by penis-owners for masturbation or to spice up a handjob with a partner or to make oral pleasure easier. Penis sleeves are best used with lube to improve the glide and pleasure.
Container-housed penis sleeves like the Tenga Flip Hole Zero Masturbator are a popular type of penis sex toy and are sometimes made with designs that mimic the opening of a vagina or anus for aesthetic pleasure. You can also find sleeves that have unique textures for massaging the penis shaft like the Optimale. An inexpensive way to try out a stroker is to check out Tenga Eggs. There are also stroker sex toys designed with trans bodies in mind, like Calexotics Packer Gear FTM stroker or the silicone ShotPocket.
Some powerful vibrators like the Magic Wand accommodate attachments that transform the sex toy into a vibrating stroker. What also makes this toy great is that it can be used with or without an erection, unlike many toys that can be used only when hard.
‘Guybrators’ or Penis Vibrators
While any vibrator can be used on a penis, there are some that are specifically created to give pleasure through stroking and sucking sensations. This Fun Factory stroker vibrator is great if you opt to use it during penetration so both of you can feel the vibration at the same time. If you’re interested in a hands-free penis pleasure experience, this stroker from Hot Octopuss takes it to the next level with style. The Hot Octopuss Pulse line is great for using with or without an erection, with or without lube, with stroking or held in place against the frenulum. The Duo versions are particularly popular for those who have challenges with maintaining erections or whose partners don't enjoy penetration. The inner plate vibrates the frenulum of the penis while the outer flat side is controlled separately to vibrate the vulva or perineum. In this way, a couple can be positioned as though having intercourse without the one being inside the other but while both are getting simultaneous vibrating pleasure.
Want to spice up blowjobs? The Satisfyer Men Vibration is an innovative stroker combining the unique sensation of a super-skilled blowjob with penetrative sex using fourteen signature modes of vibration and thoughtful inner contours.
Penis Pumps
Penis pumps help build blood flow in the penis. For some people this enables them to get an erection, for others it allows a harder erection, and for others still the pleasure comes from an increase in sensation, tingling, and receptivity to stimulation. Some use them as a means to other kinds of pleasure such as intercourse, while others find them pleasurable in and of themselves with repeated suction and release. Pumps can be manually operated or automatic. This pleasure pump was designed with queer, trans masculine, and non-binary bodies in mind.
Penis Extenders
Penis extenders are wearable sex toys that slip over a penis to add girth or length. They can be used to fulfill a fantasy, to experiment with different feelings during penetration, to support people with erectile dysfunction, or to continue penetrative sex beyond the life of an erection.
Double Strap-on Harnesses
Usually we think about strap-on harnesses being used by people without penises, but double strap-on harnesses are designed with penis-owners in mind. You might wear a strap-on harness to fulfill a fantasy, to strap-on your partner’s favourite dildo, to extend the life of penetrative sex or to explore double penetration.
How to Introduce Penis Sex Toys into the Bedroom?
You can use toys on penises for masturbation, but also for partnered sex to spice up blow jobs and hand jobs. Depending on the person and what they like, penis owners may also enjoy blended pleasure from penis sex toys used with nipple stimulation or prostate and anal pleasure. Some people view sex toys as competition in pleasure and others see them as partners in pleasure!
Ask your partner what they think about using sex toys and if they have any experience using them. Sometimes reading erotic stories or watching erotic films that contain some toys for penises can be a great way to normalize and increase comfort for using them. You can also reference an article like this one or from a “men’s magazine” that talks positively about using them in order for a partner to realize that toys for penises are great additions to your sexual repertoire.
Get excited about being curious about sex toys together—shop online together, suggest things for each other, talk about what excites you, and ask questions. Start by bringing sex toys into sex activities you already enjoy, for example, start with a hand job and when they are aroused ask if you can experiment with a penis stroker on them. Create space to talk about assumptions and discomfort too. You can try playing with exhibitionism and voyeurism and put on a masturbation show to excite a partner and show them how the toy might be used for your pleasure.
Sexual health still matters when we’re talking about sex toys! Remember that sex toys need to be washed after every use, either use warm and soapy water or a sex toy cleaner to prevent bacterial build up. To get the most pleasure out of your toys, make sure you pair your sex toys with quality lube: you can use silicone lube for glass, metal, latex or PVC; use a water-based lube or oil-based one if your toys are silicone.
