Valentine's Day 2020 Erotic Recipe 4: Sensual Bondage

Valentines Erotic Recipe 4: Sensual Bondage

Teasing is the name of this game: keep your partner guessing as to what comes next as you play with their arousal. Use as many sensation toys as you can find on as many different parts of their body that they enjoy to keep the erotic tension high. Keep them on the edge of orgasm for a more intense full-body experience and release. 

You will need:

• Card
• Massage Candle
• Floggerella
• Wrist Restraints
• Blindfold
• Stimulation toys such as the Pitstop Shotpocket, Satisfyer Magic Bunny, or Womanizer Duo
• Ice cubes
• Any household sensation toys or items from the dollar store: fork, comb, mardi gras beads, scarf, velvet, massage implements, etc.

Setting the scene:

Leave out a suggestive card that instructs your partner on when and where to meet for your date later that day or week. Write inside that you want to take control of their pleasure. Prepare the space for the event: gather as many sensation toys as you can find, put down a towel or waterproof sheet, place your lube and/or massage oil into a bowl of warm water or a crockpot turned on low, turn on the space heater to warm up the room to a comfortable temperature for nakedness, light the massage candle and attach your wrist restraints to the bed or to either end of a long rope that goes under the mattress.

When your partner arrives at the appointed time to the bedroom, blindfold them at the door. Guide them gently to the bed and slowly take their clothes off. If they are wearing anything soft or silky, drag their clothes over their body from head to toe as you take them off. Get them to lie face down. Pour the melted massage candle oil onto their back as a warm surprise. Then massage it into their body in a gentle loving way to help them surrender to the moment as well as prepare for arousal.  

When they are relaxed, tell them to turn over and lie on their back. Then attach their wrists to the restraints while they lie face up. Use different sensation toys from head or neck down to their knees or ankles (whatever is most comfortable for you without constantly moving how you are seated). Some strokes can be long and predictable, but then do a few surprise touches: lick their earlobe, then scratch gently their inner arm with your nails, followed by a gentle massage stroke up the side of their body and then dragging Mardi Gras beads along their inner thigh and vulva or penis all the way up to their shoulder. 

Tease your partner by jumping from one part of their body to the next so that they don’t know what is coming next. Play with contrasts: two different sensations at the same time such as fast and slow, light and heavy, soft and hard, etc. Drag the floggerella up and down their body. Melt some ice cubes on their nipples. Use any sensation toys on different parts of their body. Neither avoid nor focus on their erogenous zones such as nipples, penis, and vulva. 

The next step is to start incorporating more genital play into the session. Use toys such as the Pitstop Shotpocket, Satisfyer Magic Bunny, or Womanizer Duo to intensify genital stimulation. Once the arousal has begun, keep the stimulation also periodically on other areas of the body. Alternate between the genitals and the rest of the body and softer and more intense sensations. Tease them by bringing your partner close to the edge of orgasm and then stopping the stimulation abruptly. Explain to them that either you are not yet ready for them to come, or that you want them to wait, or that they are too greedy, or that they don’t deserve to release yet, whatever sounds most authentic for you. You can then play a little more by asking them how badly they want you to continue or what they will do for you in exchange for allowing them to release. If your partner is multi-orgasmic then you can bring them to orgasm several times. If they are not, then play with that edge of orgasm as long as it feels enjoyable to both of you. 

Note that this type of scene is all done in a spirit of playfulness and consent where the focus is on pleasuring your partner. It is great to take pleasure in the teasing, as long as it is within the boundaries of what your partner has stated that they like. If your partner has a hard time knowing what they want or speaking up in the moment, use safeword protocol to indicate when they want the intensity to decrease or stop entirely. If you are unsure of how your partner is receiving the interaction, you can take a time out to check in with them or make the scene short. In any case, it is important to debrief afterward to get more information about what your partner specifically enjoyed and what was not so good for them. Hopefully, you will have many more sessions down the road where you can draw it out in different and more fun ways based on their feedback! 

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#4: Sensual Bondage