Exploring multiple orgasms
Are you curious about having more than one orgasm? Can anybody have multiples? Multiple orgasms are sometimes seen as elusive to some people, and for other people it’s part of their regular sexual experience. We're going to explore them in this blog post.
What are multiple orgasms?
Multiple orgasms means having more than one orgasm in succession. It could be waves of orgasm peaks or several smaller orgasms, and then a bigger one. Some bodies need a short break in between orgasms and other bodies prefer to keep the orgasm momentum going, but switch up technique. Everyone is different.
Can all bodies have multiple orgasms?
It depends on your body and the type of pleasure you enjoy. For some people with clits, stimulating the outer/visible part of the clit to back-to-back orgasms works, and for other people stimulating the part of the clit that can be accessed through the vagina works better because they are including stimulation to the G-spot. Some bodies require really strong vibrators like wand style vibes, and other bodies prefer dual-stimulation vibrators, and some people prefer going manual with their hands.
Can penises have multiple orgasms?
Absolutely, yes. Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events in all bodies and happen seconds apart for penises.
Becoming familiar with the moments before ejaculation is the key to being able to have multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Techniques for multiple orgasms in penises involve lightly but firmly squeezing just under the head of the penis right before orgasm or switching up the speed or pressure as orgasm builds.
Explore sex toys for penises to offer different types of pleasure and stimulation to the penis. Mixing up pleasure can help the body learn new pathways to get turned on and might lead to finding ways to achieve multiple orgasms. Penis sleeves, prostate massagers, and penis rings are great sex toys for introducing new sensations to the body.
What techniques can I try to help me have multiple orgasms?
There isn’t an orgasm hierarchy. If you’re enjoying the pleasure you’re getting, then great!
If you are curious about other types of pleasure like multiple orgasms, here are some things to try:
Solo pleasure is a great way to learn about how your arousal feels in your body as you get more and more turned on. Pay attention to what speeds, pressures, and directions take your body from low arousal, to medium, to high arousal. Masturbation allows you to focus only on your body and reactions. Try masturbating and tune into what’s happening in your body as you move from arousal and build towards orgasm. Does your breath change? What parts are you clenching? What parts tingle? What happens in your body right before you peak?
Tuning into what your pleasure feels like right before orgasm can give you a better sense of how to tease yourself and hover at that heightened sensation before orgasm. You can use this body knowledge during masturbation or with a partner to know how to change things up during your arousal to aim for multiple orgasms.
Clits and penises can be sensitive post-orgasm, so make sure you discuss trying techniques with your partner ahead of time and invite them to give you feedback on what feels good and what doesn’t. Feeling comfortable and safe to communicate can help you stay in your body and out of your head, as well as build trust with a partner so you can ride those waves of pleasure into your next orgasm. Get comfortable communicating things like: faster or slower, harder or softer, more left or more right, etc.
Edging is about taking your body close to the point of orgasm, letting the intensity subside (either slow things down, change up pressure or speed), and then building back up. The goal is to train yourself to stay longer in the intense states of arousal just before orgasming. Try edging during masturbation or with a partner and use lots of lube!
If you’re pleasuring a penis, spice up your hand stimulation with these handjob tips.
Multiple orgasms can come from multiple types of stimulation. You could try mutual masturbation with a partner for the first orgasm, then try oral, and maybe a vibrator for a third. Keep the arousal high in between orgasms with sensuality, touch, and dirty talk. If you are doing solo pleasure, mix up your masturbation with these tips.
Multiple orgasms can be awesome, but more orgasms doesn't have to mean better orgasms. Try to avoid getting hyper-fixated on a multiple orgasm goal, as this can stress you out and make it tough to be present in pleasure. Some people are happy with the orgasms they are having and some people enjoy exploring erotically!Written for GFH by Luna Matatas